Controlling Defensive Response

During the intense moments following a misunderstanding, perhaps composing a hasty email or spouting off defensive words can add fuel to an already smoldering fire.

God is the perfect peacemaker, able to help us approach conflict with grace. Allow Him to soothe those defensive feelings so you can return to the situation with understanding and, when appropriate, reconciliation.
Perhaps in that particular exchange, you were right. But what if you weren’t? Or, what if there is no right or wrong to the situation at all?
Feelings are often situated in a gray area. While unpleasant, it’s okay to sit in a place of discomfort for a while because it’s the only way we are going to grow in empathy and understanding.
Sometimes the best way to “fix it” is not to react immediately. And always, the best place to start is to go to the Lord. He will bring hardened feelings to your attention; embrace the discomfort of what may be found.
We are all imperfect people who are going to miss the mark from time to time. We will get things wrong and hurt others unintentionally.
Each set of circumstances is unique, but whether you are taking five minutes, overnight, or even longer to pray over the situation, you are sure to respond with a clearer head and better understanding of your own heart if you talk to the Lord first.
I’m so thankful I did not hit the “send” button after typing that emotional, late-night response, and my approach the next morning was rooted strongly in reflection and prayer. 
“I can relate to this”